Hi everyone,
Do you have a situation or decision to make that triggers you to then have repetitive negative thinking regarding the situation/decision.

*Repetitive negative thinking such as: But I can't because...., yes but...., if I do then what if... But what if he/she won't ...., etc, etc, etc.

These type of thoughts usually limit you from being able to move forward or from making a decision and sticking to it because of the negative "feelings" that are attached to the thoughts.

Give this a try-

1) Write down (either typing or on paper) what your "feelings" are about the situation or regarding a decision you want to make for the future and how it will make you "feel".

Such as: I will feel worthless, I won't feel appreciated, I will feel unwanted, I will feel like I abandoned so and so. .....Keep going until you are totally done.

2) Think to yourself and let yourself search for the same familiar "feelings".. (NOT same situation necessarily) sometime in your life, then write down when you have felt like this before?

Many times it will be from childhood or early adult yrs. Such as: When I was 10 I felt worthless because my parents didn't show me love or When I got my first job my boss told me I was worthless and useless, so on and so forth. The same "feelings" have probably repeated themselves over the yrs, so you may have several situations to list...or not.

3) What you have just done is shined light onto your "old emotional patterns" in your subconscious mind. Once your subconscious mind is "exposed" to your conscious mind it will not have the same power over you and now you can think "rationally" with consciousness regarding your situation and decision.

Old emotional patterns will plague us when a situation arises that brings those feelings to the surface. We don't know "why" we can't let go of the compulsive negative thinking and it's because the "feelings" have control over us.

We want to do almost anything to not feel the same bad feelings from our past, however when you need to make a decision or change behavior that is not in alignment with running from these old feelings, then you have internal conflict..... then, you suffer...then you feel nuts....then you may become depressed....so on and so on.

Dijmart