I think that in a way, therapy is a bit like AA: For them to work, you have to be close enough to the end of your rope so as to feel truly humble and needing someone else's help, whether a T or a group (AA). That means no longer standing on an intellectual high horse or otherwise feeling superior to a T, which are both, in their own ways, defenses thrown up by your unconscious to prevent you from going into therapy, as are all too many other negative ideas about therapy and the therapy process.

I am not sure if it is all defense mechanism. I dealt with therapists. Some had acquired knowledge, but I would honestly doubt their wisdom and intuition skills.

But yeah, I am a tough ***** who hates to go ask others for help. Hell, I even hate to ask people to help me with carrying a heavy bag, because us feminists need to men to carry our heavy things (bit exagerating here, but you get the point) and to come to somebody to help me deal with me... especially it feels selfish to pay for this.... when there are people who are much worse off and self pity feels like a friggin' luxury.

It took me three years of 24/7 s****dal thinking and planning to get me to the point of going into therapy with all defenses down, able to cooperate one hundred percent on a joint mission with T to find and correct whatever might be the sources of the problem. Is my IQ higher than my T's? I don't know and I don't care. She obviously knows exactly what she's doing and her manner of conducting a therapy session alone convinces me that she is someone to listen to carefully

Maybe I am not mess enough... but I feel I cannot afford becoming vulnerable now. I have to wonder if that is compatible with living my daily life. I cannot take time for myself. And I need my defense shields not to be trampled to the ground.


Successful therapy takes courage, bravery and guts. If you really need therapy, then resistance to therapy is a matter of fear, anxiety and timidity. Can you do it yourself? Well, Freud analyzed himself. Has anyone else? I don't know. It would certainly be easier with a T. Take care!

Never said I was brave. I am a woman for thousands fears. And afraid what would happen if i let go.