I agree - he claims he loves people but he loves himself 1st above everyone else. Once during a legal case he had to take a psychiatric assessment because he was claiming mental stress on the lawsuit. The report came back he's narcissistic and I firming believe he is and borderline psychopath. He does what he wants and doesn't care if anyone else objects.

Yes its extremely selfish of him to want a boy. TBH I'm the primary parent, some days he'll go 4 days without seeing my girls because he comes home after they go to bed and wakes up after they leave for school. If he does end up having a boy with some woman...good luck to her because except for financial support she'll be waiting at home for him to see the baby. I bet he would have another girl - we're also strained financially and can't afford anything ATM. His motivation is to have a boy not to give a child a good life. His lawyer friend has a well trained dog and now he wants to by one and keep it at his business, even though we already have a beautiful well trained dog - he's ridiculously impressionable to what others have.

To this day he justifies and feels entitled to what he did(taking another wife) because he feels I wasn't attentive enough sexually. Supposedly in the Muslim tradition - women are supposed to satisfy their men ha. I told him 10 yrs ago that I would never reject him but he expected me to woe him all the time rather than him making advances. I don't mind making the 1st move sometimes but I'm the opposite and like the man to clearly show he's interested. He never once said sorry or expressed regret -in his words I deserve what's happening. He lies and claims I went 10 yrs of neglecting him - what a joke and out right lie. He's also a pathological liar and has lied in insurance claims.

One of my friends here PM'd me and said he's trying to push my buttons and knows my tender spots. Her advice was to dodge them as much a possible and not to engage him in these discussions since he loves the attention - I think she's right.

I also wanted to add I'm scared of this whole process of changing my lifestyle or him putting up a vicious fight. When all this 1st happened he hinted that he would make up lies, like me being a danger to the kids which is completely a lie. I believe he would bold lie to make it messy and he would completely deny him cheating.