I'm on a role, so here's some more....

In your day to day life when you have feelings of fear, sadness, anxiety, etc. arise don't hide from the feelings by covering them up. Don't use alcohol, drugs, food, etc to numb out the pain the feelings cause.

Why? because the feelings will remain. They will return. So, what do you do? Face the feelings...Sit with it, acknowledge it, give yourself compassion, cry/scream, allow it to be as it is.. then....let it go. By the time you have processed the feelings they are usually no longer in your next "present moment" anyways. They remain only in your mind, not as actual threats any longer.

If a person is involved with making you feel this way (someone said something, did something, looked at you wrong), don't immediately go to creating your self to be a victim. Most people (including myself) are so prone to victimizing their situations. Example: How could he/she have said this or that to ME, How dare THEY, who do THEY think they are, etc, etc. Then the "story" in are heads becomes much larger and greater then the actual event that took place to begin with. It becomes YOU vs. THEM.

Why this happens? Because we forget that people aren't perfect. We know we aren't, but somehow feel others should be. The uneasy, unpleasant feelings make us feel small, weak, unworthy and guilty. Then, by blaming this other person for our feelings it somehow boasts us back up, but can potentially cause a greater problem because it has now grown a life of it's own with a plot and story line to boot!

The question to ask yourself would be- If I carry this around with me, dwell on it for days on end, plot my revenge, think of this person endlessly, then WHO is really suffering??? ... You are.

I'm not suggesting that people don't post on this forum with their issues and problems. I have done so myself. I'm only sharing what I am "now" trying to put into practice in my own life. Also, if you have an issue with someone close to you I suggest speaking to them about it before it blows out of proportion.

If any of this rambling I've done helps other people, then great, if it's not your cup of tea, then that's fine also.

Peace and love
Dijmart