Hi, people. New here in this forum. Now I have a relevant problem and would very much like your advice. A year and a half ago I started therapy, and it's going great. Not as great as I'd like, but still very good. I'm trying (so far without success) to connect with all those really terrible emotions T and I know I must have had as a very small child when it became apparent to me that my mother was entirely out to lunch and dissociating almost all the time. So T and I are working on this very hard.

Well, interestingly enough, over the past couple of months, while T and I have been working on figuring out my mother, my appetite has more than doubled. I've become obsessed with food. And, yes, I smoke and drink too. But those haven't increased, only the food. My wife is really upset. She tells me I'm getting fat. I listen to her in the house, but when I'm out and about I give in to these desires. I long ago swore off Chinese buffets for lunch, but now I hear their siren song again. As well as large orders of everything at 5 Guys.

The connection's as plain as the nose on my face, but that doesn't help me stop eating. For dinner tonight, because she yelled at me, I ate a head of lettuce with cocktail sauce and if I can keep that up it'll help, I suppose, but it's not going to help when I'm out of the house.

What do you do when you're around these places serving delicious food and you're just overwhelmed with raging hunger? How do you resist? If I give in on a regular basis I'll be obese. I haven't had this problem before. For all of my previous life I've weighed in at a reasonable number. Now I have a problem fitting into my clothes, and I can't afford a new wardrobe! Help!