The first time I got "close" to a guy was when I was 22 - I had a big crush on him during college but he graduated and moved away. We got back in touch a few years later and we started seeing each other. He was dealing with certain "life issues", and I literally put my life on stake just being with him. 3 months later I found out he had been cheating on me with other GUYS. I was just glad I got out of that relationship alive (literally).

6 months later I met a guy online. It was pretty much lust at first sight - or love at first sight. It was my first "real" relationship. I was 23 at the time. I dated him for 5 months on and off. It was very rocky because my parents didn't approve of the relationship and that put a strain on it. I finally broke up with him because he said something along the lines of "you're clingy" (me being really independent, that just tore me apart - I was crashing at his loft at the time while I was apt hunting). I tried to get back with him, but he didn't want me back. He said he had enough (bluntly put). He did tell me during one of the times we were "off" that if I wanted to be successful in my next relationship, I should try not to be this "closed off". 2 months after we broke up, he found another girl. A year and 2 months later, he's still with that girl. I find that he isn't afraid to be "public" about his feelings towards her - he was "public" about his feelings towards me in the beginning, but he started hiding our relationship towards when we broke up - maybe because he thought I was hiding him from my family... idk?

I've had a couple of guys that I've been interested in since I broke up with him (3 in the past year to be precise). The first one - I thought I was dating him (I didn't really like him completely, but I was definitely intrigued) - we slept together. 2 weeks later, I find out he's with another girl. That was over a year ago - he's still with her.

The second guy I was interested in - he seemed genuinely interested in me. And then all of a sudden he decides he just wants to be friends. I cut him off for a while. But since we had mutual friends, it was hard avoiding him. Now we're just friends and hang out once in a while.

I see girls who get in and out of long lasting relationships - how does that work? I have trouble finding ONE guy that I'm interested in. In the past year there were only 2 guys that I was genuinely interested in, and both of those didn't work out. What is wrong with me? I'm 24 and yet to have a real relationship. In the meantime, I'm hung up on the one relationship that I had with that one guy last year (I realize the only reason I'm hung up on him is because that's the only "good times with a guy" that I can think back upon).

I really need help. I'm 24, successful, independent, social and good looking (from what I've been told). I have a lot of friends - 99% of which are guys. They get along great with me. I don't want to date any of them - but I do find one occasionally that I want to date - but he never ever is interested in anything other than just being friends with me. Why can't I sustain a relationship?? I'm really tired of being single. I want to make someone happy. I want to be the person that makes him happy. Or should I just turn lesbian? Help?