Lynn, please don't assume those are the only two options--you seem to be thinking the worst! If he wants the house so much and you are OK with that, he will have to buy you out of it. That happens a lot in settlements. One spouse keeps the house, the other gets compensation for the value of their share of the house. Very common. Your lawyer will explain. If your husband can't afford to buy you out, then I guess the two of you can sell the house and split the proceeds. If he doesn't want to, too bad. That's how it works. I remember that my lawyer told me that the woman often wants to stay in the house but that it can actually be detrimental. Look at your earning power and present job and the cost of the mortgage and upkeep for the house. A lot of women are better off taking compensation for the house from the husband and then buying a more modest home or condo with that money. Of course, that's not true for all women. I did stay in the family home and it has worked out OK for me.

Yes, indeed, that's a very strange comment about your H wanting to have another child with another woman. Is that his way of saying he is looking forward to being divorced? Once he is divorced, he can go father a dozen children with other women and it will be no concern of yours, thank goodness. Those other women can deal with his views and desire for multiple partners.

I am so glad you are going to see a lawyer! I hope that goes well.