We just have different ideas about what is proper, what is not...

I like porn too, who doesn't? But it doesn't mean I keep any on hand if there's a real live beautiful female in my life. That's disrespect in my book. I wouldn't like it if she had a male porn collection; in fact, I would be furious. Personally, I think sex and romance have been hurt by the way porn saturates all levels of society, but that's another topic.

I'm not proud of it but I shouted at my father quite often though never in front of any gf. Can't say I have yelled at my mother. I probably am over-critiquing, easy to do here. But at the same time, I don't think I am holding anyone to ridiculous standards.

But different strokes for different folks...Glad your marriage has lasted, may you have many more years together.