I'm not sure this is the right room, but I figure:

1. Pornography is a just an aspect of who I am, not a major issue

2. I want to reach a wide audience

3. It might turn out not be about sex at all

So here goes.

I have a large pornography collection. I keep it on a thumb drive so I can take it away and keep it safe when my daughter borrows my computer or I take it in to work.

I spend a lot of time ORGANISING it: ranking, classifying, adjusting the pictures for contrast, colour etc. A lot of pornography is produced by VERY POOR photographers. (Sorry folks, it's not enough to undress the model and aim the camera. Think about lighting!) But I digress.

So maybe it's more about being an obsessive collector than anything else.

I feel, rightly or wrongly, that pornography has helped me. (Some people prefer to use the word "erotica", but lets not quibble.)

1. It validates my interest in sex.

2. As a man who has had only one lover, I am curious to know what other women's bodies look like. (I prefer curvaceous, cuddly women with dark hair - like my wife.)

3. It makes some of my "unusual tastes" seem less unusual, and makes it easier for me to accept them. Example: being spanked.

4. I found it a useful way to explore sexual ideas that I would never have the opportunity to try for myself. Example: gay sex.

5. It gives me a sense of control. Speculation: This may be a common motivation for seeking pornography, and may explain why feminists hate it so much. But for me, a sense of control is reassuring.