I can tell how much you don't want to leave this therapist, delicatefade, but it's also clear that your therapy work is your Number One Priority.

This man, however good a match he may be, apparently isnt in a position (2nd job etc) to give your work top priority. It's no one's fault, but it's a reality.

I don't think you're going to be able to get what you want from a therapist or from therapy in the current situation. You need someone stable in his practice so he can be stable & consistent with his clients.

At least that's how I see it from following your posts. I so hope you work things out. You really are working hard & I think with a better situation could be feeling less frustrated. My very best wishes.