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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I probably know the answer, but just wondered what others will say. For ME, I've gotten triggered and upset when I didn't get the kind of response I wanted from my T. So I decided that she shouldn't email me at all. Now I'm thinking (and from the posts in my other thread getting the idea) that emailing my T isn't helping me either. That's not clear cut, though. Usually I feel better after I send them. So, why should I give up these behaviors when so many others have no problem with emailing their Ts and receiving responses?
So, why is it okay for some to email and get answers from their T? Is it because of my particular issues, I assume? Having BPD? Not being able to handle my feelings all of the time?
I'd like to say "it's not fair" but that would be childish.  What's good for one client is not good for another. But why does it seem that I have to give up what others don't? I'm not being bitter about it. I am accepting what I have to do. I just wish I wouldn't have my particular issues, but that's silly thinking. I do have them. |
I e-mail my T - they are often long e-mails with stuff I feel unable to share in the sessions. My T is not supportive of me doing this and has made it clear that his preference is for me to talk about these in session.
I often have to wait a few days for a response from T and then it is usually very brief. Sometimes when I e-mail it is because I am having a really hard time and again T has said his preference is for me to call him, but I can't do that. He may then in his e-mail just write a couple of sentences reminding me to breathe / move / grounding stuff or posing me a question.
I know that the most useful thing is for me to talk about these things in session - however when I get in that head spin writing everything down and sending it away somewhere that I know is safe, does help me and T acknowledges that which is why he doesn't say I can't e-mail.
So although it is something I do, I can't say it is totally OK with T and I am now trying hard to break that habit.
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