I was thinking in the car today about things like this. Many of my relationships would have elicited a response like your wife's from me, and its not really a bad thing in the broad sense. It just kinda ended up being a bad thing for me. I decided that there is a difference between a deep connection and love. I would say in my personal experience, deep connections tended to not last as I was simply concerned about that connection I valued above everything...And not the practicals [such as timing/relationship readiness, life goals, and "EQ"]. I eventually stopped being attracted to men who I would have developed close bonds in my younger years because it seemed do more harm than good when I kept getting hurt by men who I deeply connected with but who ultimately weren't ready for a girlfriend when they thought they were. I needed the men to have valid life goals, values, things of that sort in order to then see how deep the connection could go. Otherwise I'd have a deep connection with no foundation. I'd rather there be a foundation first and then build.

Not criticizing at all, just verbal vomiting really.