yep I agree with ruby. i don't like giving concrete "advice" but it sounds like you already know what you want and need to do, and maybe you just need some reassurance that it is the right thing to do. If you can work it out beneficially with him that is great but don't let him make you feel guilty or change your mind.

You are worried about hurting his feelings. That is considerate. But he will get over it. Compare that to your own feelings. It sounds like you are in much more emotional pain right now than making a change will hurt him. Also consider that if you stay here you will likely be suffering for a long time. Once a change is made you will both adjust in a much shorter time.

Even if you are someone who always puts other's feelings ahead of your own, consider the magnitude of the hurt that you are expressing now. You should not ever sacrifice your happiness out of fear of hurting someone's feelings. Put it all on the scale for balance. It seems like your pain is very very weighty and you have to take that into consideration.

Good luck.

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