You're still in the wrong room. If you took the time to read some of the women's posts in the "Relationships" section, regarding their miserable experiences with their husband's porn obsessions, maybe you might reconsider your seemingly clinical interest in pornography and the potential it has for destroying a wife's trust in you.

It's all very well to detail your seemingly detached desire to "gain control", your curiousity about gay sex and spanking, as well as your prurient but innocent interest in seeing what other womens bodies (other than your wife's) look like but your honesty is misplaced. Great, you've come clean about your sexual curiosities but what kind of images are we talking about , that you so calmly list?

To call most contemporary pornographic images of women "objectifying"-in the language of the feminists-is to sugar-coat what in reality are images of women of the most demeaning variety. What does that say about you that you subsist on this kind of diet, that you need these images to feel control? Control of what? Do you visualize yourself in these positions with your wife? I think you have some deeper-seated issues and your porno collection is just the tip of the iceberg.