You can't sustain a relationship like the one you want for two reasons. One, most guys at your age are jerks and still trying to grow up. Good luck finding a decent one. Maybe go to where decent guys hang out like church or volunteering somewhere. You need to hunt them. Forget the bar scene. Two, you need to raise your standards and monitor your patience. Do NOT settle! You will regret it and waste time if you do. And be patient enough to wait until you find a guy worthy of you. Nice guys are out there. But so are jerks. Learn from your mistakes. Make a list of desirable and undesirable traits and pay attention to it. I'm a nice guy (way older than you) and wish I would have met a nice girl at that age. Make this search important that you don't settle because you are impatient. If you do this, you will find him.