My heart gets stomped in therapy whether I tell my Ts I miss them or not. But it's better to tell, IMO. I'm not sure why but the replies have made sense. It's not that missing a T is good or bad, but the ability to share that with them is what's important, and is therapeutic. I'm not sure why. For me, I want to get close to my Ts, and of course, as you know, that has its advantages and disadvantages. But I am finding a middle ground--starting to, anyway. I think it's been part of the journey to be able to tell a T my honest feelings about them. It's hard to explain; you kind of have to experience it, I think.