Haha, totally hear you on the lighting thing. I could do a better job in my college TV production studio.

But on the actual topic. I think its very interesting that you have an outlet for your kinks. I applaud that you don't seek them outside of your marriage...Assuming you are still sleeping with your wife and not substituting it for sex like a previous poster said.

Your lack of experience seems to coincide with your porn collection - Perhaps you wouldn't care to have as much if you had sought these experiences to begin with. I wonder that about my boyfriend, too, who has photos of girls bent over touching themselves all over everything...But he is far less experienced as me. I have porn, but tend to fulfill my kinks in the real world so I don't have as much. Plus I'm a girl...So I find it much less interesting than someone who may be a bit repressed.

So maybe the question is if porn is a proper outlet for repression.