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Nov 04, 2011, 10:43 PM
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I just had an "interesting" conversation with my mother on the phone about this very subject.  I, also, am the only lucky recipient of therapy, so I am the family's designated nut..scapegoat...how ever you want to put it. I've been shoved out to the extent, my brother and sil do everything my mother needs and she listens to them exclusively. She has no need for me at all. I lost my father 4 years ago , three days before Thanksgiving. All the raw emotion is still right under the surface. All the devastating remarks made to me, and the traumatic hospital experience still simmering.
I understand all of your reservations around the holidays. I only wish to get through them unscathed; it would be impossible to get the family to change or do anything differently. I go to these gatherings like a lamb to slaughter. (sorry if it sounds overly dramatic)
My husband understands how the holidays make me feel and I can leave when ever I need to.
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