Hi sweetpea! ...another from the other side of the table. I went undiagnosed for decades.It cost me several relationships, my family, and every friend I ever had. Even after I was diagnosed (bipolar nos), it took years to find a reasonable med cocktail. It was so worth the wait. I'm still having to tweek it but being truely med compliant was key, once the right basic combo was found. I was alone by this time, and am just starting to rebuild my life, and I can't help but wonder, could I have salvaged some of those relationships if I had sought help sooner, or been willing to go to that marriage councilor ? If you're in for the long haul this is a good start, but try to find a mediator who can help have your voice heard.