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Originally Posted by Lauru
She did NOT say however, anything like I care about you too, or you are important too, or anything about me at all really. She just kinda said thank you and I am glad you have all this trust in me and (the psych hospital/outpatient.) So yeah, I'm disappointed.
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That's not what you wanted, but she did acknowledge what you said. You were heard, at least. And I don't see her response as a rejection. She didn't say, "You can't possibly love me" or "You're not allowed to love me" or "Who cares what you think." She DOES care what you think.
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Originally Posted by Lauru
I wish she would have said that she cares about me too. That's all I wanted. But obviously, I'm not going to get it. And I don't want to say anything about it to her, because I don't want to be let down again, or worse, feel like a shunned pariah.  |
Ouch! You use such negative words on yourself.
I said "I love you" to my therapist many times. The first four times I got no response at all. The fifth time, I got a "thank you". I figured she was never going to say she loved me. I thought there must be some rule that she can't say it.
OK, if that's the rule, there's nothing I can do about it. But I still love her, and there's no rule that *I* can't say it. So I kept telling her.