I used to act similar when I first got married two years ago, I did not want my husband to speak with his ex who he is very friendly with still, talk to the shop clerks, watch movies with any attractive women in them, etc.
My husband told me-I had a life before we got married, and now I married you.
You have restricted your behavior to try to make her happy, so I feel that while she should not act like that, you have continued to change your behavior to try to keep peace, and now you are angry and resentful, and I'm not sure that is fair.
This is the other side of the story.