You're doing the right thing getting counseling. Catering to her unreasonable demands isn't helping her or you; if you want to watch a movie, watch it. If she freaks, calmly tell her she's being unreasonable and keep watching. If she asks you "would you ... did you .. etc" about other women, comments on where you were looking, etc. answer her calmly: "Such speculation is a waste of time and only upsets us both. I'm not going to answer those questions (or apologize for looking at furniture, a waitress' outfit, etc.) anymore." Then stick with it. In my experience, catering to her unreasonable behavior makes it continue and probably makes it escalate. If she continues to ask, answer "I've already answered you", get up and leave the room. This won't 'cure' her, but in my experience, those two actions: answering honestly (that what she is doing is unreasonable) and walking away (when she persists) can cut down on at least some of it and/or give you some mental relief.