Would this be "avoidance"?

The man that just moved out of my house, who used to be my husband, would avoid all confrontation at any costs. He would give wide berth to anything he perceived as a problem or a possible confrontation. He was asked to leave because suddenly his only reaction to anything that didn't completely please HIM ellicited <font color="red">rage.</font> My biggest problem with that is that it was always aimed at only me and no one else.

Looking back and reading this thread, it's plain to see where his frustration and rage came from; the inability to be ASSERTIVE for so many years.

No, he never was a "people pleaser." Just didn't know that he could have simply said "No, not now. Can we talk about this (now or later)?" He also has a great many passive/agressive behaviors.

Maybe you need to think more about setting some boundaries and learning to be assertive. I may be way off base, but it's a possibility.