Wow I swear I could have written this; I had a very similar thing happen, only she was downright sinister in her vengeful words and I retaliated with intent to hurt her because it literally came out of the blue and I felt a thousand knives in my back from the emensely brutal betrayal of someone I thought was a real friend. I'd say if I were in you're shoes to take the chance & email her. Keep it on you, nothing gets accomplished by pointing out her wrongs, it's her job to take accountability for her words/ reaction. Clear you're
side of the road admit you're wrongs, make an amends and It's her decision how she
reacts you cannot control that, but that's a chance you're taking. She doesn't have to
forgive you, or accept you're side but you should let her know that you still care about her as a person. I know I wish I had reacted differently to her attack, that hurt cannot be undone no matter what but I feel decent about the fact I owned my accountability to our burnt bridge. After a many situations since involving her meddling in my marriage the truth came through a valuable source that she was insanely jealous of me, I hate that she thought that was a reason to destroy my character but that's her issue to deal with. I miss her all the time, but I know I'm better off with my few close friends that I know don't allow bitterness or envy to destroy a valuable friendship. I hope it all works out & that I could have been of some help. Good luck & keep us all posted please!