I was speaking STRICTLY of HIM and my 30 yr life with him. Dynamics change with each person. I NEVER had my hands around his neck physically or emotionally. I always loved the man and ALWAYS wanted the best for him, but never pushed him.

There is most definetely a huge difference between ASSERTIVENESS and AGRESSION. I don't know what your family dynamics are and I certainly wasn't telling you what to do or not do. I simply stated that JERRY, from his lack of assertiveness, eventually built up rage and aggression... maybe because of his lack of boundaries??

Again, I'm not saying THIS dynamic plays out in your situation!