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PurpleFlyingMonkeys · Nov 05, 2011, 07:57 PM

I took the chance years and years ago. I dated his best friend and he was dating my best friend. I broke up with my boyfriend but he was still dating my friend. When she broke up with him he just shrugged and walked away. When she stopped him and asked him what he was doing he told her "going over to *******s house" (sorry can't give my name)

She was so mad, I thought it was funny. She was a good friend of mine but so was he by that point and she was treating him terribly. About 2 weeks after they broke up he and I started dating. He was my best friend and it was the same way for him. We dated for 3 months and I was so shy I didn't kiss him once (besides a peck kiss for valentines day) but he still wanted to be with me. I was young and stupid and messed it up after 3 months. I broke his heart, I think I broke his heart more than anyone elses before or after him. He was devestated all 3 times I broke up with him. Eventually when he called me a "skank" it ended it for good. I was horrible to him, I wont deny it. I wanted freedom but I wanted my best friend so I toyed with him and felt terrible for so long after it. When I realized I had done irreversible damage from my games, I was devestated. I moved away anyways and we tried to reconnect but it didn't work. I never heard from him again. I talked to his friend (the one I dated before him) and he said the guy was never the same again... It's pretty sad.

He was so good to me. He treated me so well and I never thought I would find someone as good to me as he was. I thought I ruined it and was going to be stuck with jerks for the rest of my life for what I did to my ex...

It's been almost 10 years since that guy and I don't think I will ever forget about him. I wasn't romantically in love with him but he was the only guy at the time that treated me right. But almost 10 years later and I'm with someone else. Someone I have been with 2 years. Someone who is my best friend and treats me even better than the man I thought no one could ever compare to. He's now my best friend and became that as our relationship grew.

Whether they are your best friend before or during the relationship, it's a strong bond that is devestating to lose. But if it doesn't work, maybe it really wasn't meant to be and you're meant to be with someone else just as good or even better. But you will never know unless you take that jump. Best friends, romances, connections, chemistry... They fade over time, you will be lucky if you keep one non family related relationship (friendship included) throughout your entire life, you gain relationships and eventually lose them, it's the cycle of life. But you have to put yourself out there to gain them. And who knows, the boyfriend I'm with now, I'm positive he's the one I want to be with for the rest of my life now. It's the best friends, before and during the relationship, that you want to keep