Kehly, welcome to Psych Central.

Would it be possible for you to suggest that he see a therapist? Or, actually, you could set up an appointment together and ask him to go with you. You can tell him that you are worried about him and about your relationship and need help figuring out where to go from where you are right now.

It would be very hard to live with and love someone who is so up and down like that. It sounds like it's more than you can reasonably expect to fix without professional help, especially if he isn't understanding how this is a problem, but even if he does understand the problem, that kind of change takes treatment and support. Since you're in an extremely small community, that might limit available counseling services though. Do you know what is available? If you need help finding resources, let us know. Maybe we can help come up with some options.

Rap