These are my rules for holiday/family visits. I didn't go in and announce them that I was going to do them, just did them. It helps.

1. No physical abuse of any kind, of anyone in the house. I don't want to see and if it happens I will call the police and leave.

2. No verbal abuse. If something like that starts up, I will leave.

3. I always drive there so I have a car to leave (this one is a BIGGEE, you gotta have an escape route). I've rented cars before.

4. I stay no more than 2 nights in a row OR I stay in a hotel.