My T and I have spent a lot of time learning coping strategies for when the feelings come up before prodding too deeply - it may be because my T treats me gently (I have rather destructive coping strategies) that we have spent time looking at ways to deal with things inbetween sessions and although my T doesn't encourage inbetween session contact, he has told me to call if things get too bad to cope with.

I am not sure if I am with the fact that everyone experiences feelings the same as everyone else (but I am no expert ). I think there is evidence to suggest that some people do feel things more deeply. My T hasn't said that I would become numb to feelings, but that I would learn to sit with them and not be overwhelmed by them - I have come from a place of feeling numb and that is not nice either.

In answer to your question of what I do - I keep a journal, sometimes I write a long email and just send it to T to get it out of my head, I go for brisk walks - joined a gym for a while which was really helpful in getting the tension out (I think sometimes the tension can be related to adrenaline and a good way of getting rid of it is exercise). I bought a puppy, I try to practic mindfulness, do things that may be soothing, hot baths, weekly yoga class - I think there is a link on here somewhere about grounding techniques and I find them helpful if my head is all over the place.

Take care - Soup