i am a female and i've been in this situation, except it was on the other side... in my last relationship i acted just like your boyfriend and everything just eventually fell apart. however my reasons for my behavior were never consistent and it was for this reason that my ex-boyfriend made me see a psychiatrist. i was diagnosed with depression. while i don't want to jump to any ideas about your boyfriend possibly having an illness, maybe there is a way of discussing this issue with him without causing a fight. I agree with "alliwantislove." putting it aside will only make you angrier every time he doesn't support you again. maybe you can write the different situations down, and analyze them for yourself. also to keep them as proof and to boost your morale when you finally talk about them to him, so he can't stay on the defensive all the time. it seems like he is trying to do right by you and he loves you, but he probably also has his own issues going on, and he can't read your mind so you have to communicate how you feel. good luck! and i hope that talk you gave went well!