rainbow, i too was a preemie...born at 24 weeks! I am 100% convinced the reason that I have a serious fear of hospitals and doctors is due to my birth. I weighed only a 1lb 12oz, and then went down (as babies usually do) a few more ounces.

I also am working towards doing EMDR, and I also am skeptical about it actually helping. My T has also said that it was a huge trauma and definitely impacted my life--also the fact that my parents were so young (18 and 20). I stayed in the hospital for 4 months and I know that for the first two weeks I was unable to be held because of the respirator and other such things poking me, and being attached to wires. Not to mention your skin is super thin, so you are EXTREMELY fragile. My mom has said that once she was able to hold me, it was only in small increments. From the few pictures I have of my birth, I was held, but it wasn't skin to skin contact, and obviously I wasn't breast fed, though I don't think that plays a huge role in your adult life.

I think all of that is fascinating, and a miracle I survived and had no complications otherwise. This was in 1981. BUT I can't really believe that being a preemie shaped my whole life onwards. I have issues, and issues with my mom--but that is more how I was treated growing up, not the fact that I spent the first months of my life in an incubator! But that is my own opinion

Whenever I actually start doing the EMDR, I most certainly will fill you in if it works/helps! I am similar to you in that I didn't suffer any major trauma, so it is hard for me to attribute the way my life is now to the past. I'm working on it though.