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Originally Posted by FooZe
What, exactly, comes up for you when you don't "give in to these desires"? I'm not saying you have to post about it, just notice it for yourself. It could very well turn out to be one of the things you're working on in therapy, only viewed from a different angle.
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Originally Posted by Ygrec23
That hasn't happened. I have not been successful in "not eating." That's why I started this thread.
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When I get that hungry I do NOT have a choice. I just eat.... It's obssessive.
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I'm trying to picture what that's like. What occurs to me first is that I've been in lots and lots of situations where I
thought I didn't have a choice, only to find out that I did.
When you get hungry, as you're describing here,
what would happen if you decided to wait five minutes (or two, or one, or 30 seconds) before actually eating? I'd guess you've sometimes ended up waiting that long anyway, if only to get to a fast food restaurant, order a sandwich and have someone put it on your tray. Here are some of the possibilities I can imagine:
- You decide to wait, then immediately change your mind. "The heck with this! I'm not waiting any five minutes." I gather you wouldn't call that a choice, though I would.
- You experience some sort of distress that you want no part of, and the fastest way to make the distress go away is to eat something.
- You find some way to shut down or distract yourself while you're waiting, so you won't notice the distress.
- You say, "OK, I'll try waiting five minutes." The next thing you know, you're looking at a pile of empty sandwich wrappers on your tray, wondering what happened.
- You hear yourself saying, "I'm going to wait five minutes, I'm going to wait five minutes, I'm going to wait five minutes..." but it's as if you're watching yourself from a distance and even while you're still telling yourself you'll wait, you're already eating.
Are any of these anything like what happens for you?
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My "willpower" has nothing to do with it. My "conscious" choices and desires are just steamrollered.
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I've never found "willpower" very useful myself. I'm not even sure that there is such a thing. What seems to work best for me is to just do what I do, watch myself do it, and choose to do what I'm doing. I think if I found myself being steamrollered I'd be looking to climb on the steamroller and share the driving.
Your mileage may vary. 