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Thank you for the responses. She did talk with me over the weekend. After much talk and a lot of crying and hugging I hit on something that she said she would like. I feel stupid admitting this but I have this amazing sticker collection. I started it about 28 years ago so you can imagine how many photo albums that sucker takes up. Well she's always loved to look at my stickers can spend hours doing it. So I told her I'd start a sticker collection for her. Everyday she gets a sticker just cuz I love her. Then if she wants to cut but calls me instead and we talk about it and lets me at least try to help her through it then I put in another sticker one she gets to pick from my collection. I told her she gets it even if after we talk she still cuts because at least she reached out and tried. She seems really excited about this I mean kid in a toy store excited. We also decided that if she hits something like 3-5 days without self injuring then extra stickers. Extra stickers at 10 days plus something that she wants like a new shirt or a purse of something my treat. I told her I didn't want her to feel like a kid that I'm bribing. She said she likes the idea because she will have something tangible to look at that tells her someone cares that much about her plus she can see progress she has made. We'll see how it goes. Fingers crossed!
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