Hi Rainbow,

I'm so glad you are feeling a shift in your viewpoint/emotions! You are understanding why you have those strong desires for maternal nurturing, so it is not such a confusing unsolvable mystery. I know you like to have things figured out, and it sounds like you are beginning to do that now -- "put the puzzle pieces together." Also, it sounds like your thinking that was black and white before (either t needs to be like a mom to me and be everything to me -- or else we don't have any relationship that means anything) has been transforming to a more reasonable view (no, t can't be a mom to me, but we still have a good, authentic, and meaningful relationship. These are good shifts in your thinking!