Wysteria,

I'm so sorry you are going through a situation like this with this t. In reading what you wrote about how your conversations have gone with this t, my immediate reaction is that this is not a safe t for you. His reactions do not sound appropriate to me for a t. Instead of listening to what you say and trying to help YOU with it, he is personalizing what you say and concentrating on how it makes HIM feel. I think you should trust your instincts.