I agree with the others and TerryL - its very important to leave safely as the last poster said. Don't tell him you're going to leave and plan it out. Men like this rarely change and you may think he won't do it again but he will. You'll live walking on eggshells never knowing when he'll lose it again. Blaming you is typical abusive thinking. Also don't have kids with him. The longer you stay the harder it'll be to leave. There's no hope in a relationship like this.