(((Distressed2010)))

I hear you... I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling so sad, hurt, angry.
How awful it sounds with everyone yelling or making comments, putting you down. Please try to keep in mind that you don't deserve this. You are a strong person who is owed respect, indeed the same respect each person owes each other person.
But if they don't get this, they just don't get it and it will always be that way. No arguing will convince them, so I would say just shrug or nod, do what they want.
I know you are in a very conservative environment. But is there ANY way you could move out? Is there any way to find a church or organization where you can take a room - or try to raise money to plan to move out at a given time? It sounds like they will drive you crazy! You are old enough now to move on. I know it's hard. Can you sit down and make some plans (on paper or in your mind) about how you can move out? Take care of yourself. Be gentle with you. Even when the others are being mean, just roll your eyes to yourself and ignore them. If your sister "NEEDS" you to call her by that name, maybe you should just do it - you don't have to mean it in your heart... You know, do whatever you can to keep the peace. Just try to figure out how to free yourself!
(Those are my thoughts...) I am sending many supportive thoughts your way.
Hugs.
Elana