and I would never try to change who he is but.......he really needs to spend more time with the kids and I. It seems that his life consists of sleep, video games, and more sleep, and yet more video games. I really wish that he would be a more active father and husband....sometimes I feel like I am married to a wall. I don't mind that he plays video games, I know that he enjoys it and it's his stress reliever/escape/break from the world, but I wish that he could balance computer time and family time.

I feel so frustrated with him at times. Sometimes I think to myself that he would rather be a single guy with no kids, he sure doesn't show that he enjoys spending time with his family. And I feel like he led me on to believe he is someone that he is not when we first got together. He told me he wanted to have a big family, and that he is a family kind of guy. Now, he rarely even ever talks to his own family. He also told me that he felt like he raised himself, his parents were just "there". and he wants to be a better parent. Seems like he is following in the footsteps of his own parents, the only time he spends with the kids is if I have to get something done. He never just sits down and spends time with them, just to do it. I don't really know why I posted this, just needed to get it off my chest. I don't really need any advice, just someone to listen. I can't talk to anyone about this because they are so judgmental. I love my husband, I just want him to be more family oriented...