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Originally Posted by Aegis
But, isn't withholding this information more rewarding? Therapists won't reciprocate these feelings or needs, so this is a no win situation in which the patient will probably end either in pain or unsatisfied. If being vulnerable in therapy is beneficial, then we just need to look for a healthier way of reaching this state of vulnerability.
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Not in my opinion. For me therapy is valuable because I can express how I feel and I don't need my T to reciprocate any of my feelings or needs. There are other ways to be connected and feel understood other than reciprocity in T. It's pretty clear to me that the more I open up and share what's really going on with me, the more progress I make.
I've never heard it suggested, in the evaluation of therapy research or elsewhere, that "withholding" of information or feelings has therapeutic value.
I don't think there is any point of going to therapy and withholding information. Say what you feel. Say what's really going on in your life. Be open hearted and brave. Otherwise, it's just a waste of money.
Anne