Hi Elana, thanks so much.

I understand what you're trying to say now, to avoid drama and to keep the peace, just go with it. I used to do that, but its just reached a point i no longer can.

Also, my mom always taught me to go with whatever they(my sisters) used to demand of me, so the peace would remain and my "relationship" would stay with them. When i used to tell her, they're being unjust to me, she'd get angry and shout at me and say "then do whatever you want! you'll be left all alone if you dont learn to keep relationships!". So for a long time I did try to keep the relationship by being nice, then i realized I was being overly nice and stepping all over myself to make them happy and still things wouldn't change.

So now, at the age of 28 i've reached a point where I don't want to do this and I also don't want to follow the footsteps of my mother, Ive seen her avoid any issue/problem that comes up... and i don't want to adopt that strategy.

I know there is stress by calling her by that name, but i think i might have more internal stress if i let her have her way. I'm sort of tired of it.

Especially when I see her being SUPERNICE to her fiance, yet she takes out all her stress at me. In front of her fiance (they met 3 months back), she's super sweet, wont yell at me, wont say anything. As soon as he's not there, its like her other side pops out.

Thanks for reading, I wrote all this not really as a response to Elana, but maybe I'm just venting or posing my view.

Thankyou Elana for always being there