Hi,

Oh my God. I was in the exact same situation a few months ago. I was dating this guy, we had been friends for about 2 years, he had been in and on and off relationship for 4 years, but always pursued me. Anyway, we dated and he would bring up his ex (not alot, but substantial).

It.drove.me.crazy.

In fact it made me feel so insecure and paranoid that I was being used, I became depressed bc I was really in love with him.

You are valid in feeling insecure, men who do this are a) idiots, b) inconsiderate jerks, c) confused about whether they are emotionally available.

However, you can take the high road and talk to him about it in a civil manner and explain how it makes you feel insecure. Ask him if he is able to love you. Ask him if he still wants to be with her.

This is your life and your emotions, protect yourself. And remember what the risks are for breaking up ...