This is a really good thread and question. We all have quirks about us. I think back to who I was 10-15 years ago and the quirks I had then, never mind quirks, the dysfunction I had then and how I was tangled in it all.

I had a chip on my shoulder at least a mile long and I dared anyone to try to knock it off. Beware though, I had sharp teeth and claws and many felt them.

In 2001, I was facing a possible illness that would have changed my life forever. I was going for test after test, taking 18 pills in the morning and 14 pills at night. It scared the crap outta me. But what it really did was take me out of the "angry at the world" stage and opened my eyes to who I was. I did not like me at all!! I was nasty, I was sullen, I was angry beyond angry, I was mean and rotten, I had a biting tongue and I had no compassion for others. Not a pretty sight from my angle.

I realized that the person I was behaving like was not the person I truly was inside. From there, I made a list of things I wanted to change about me and things that I wanted to do to help make my life and behavior better. I would look at the list everyday and either add to it or detract from it and I would try to organize it by priority. It was not easy to do.

I picked one thing at a time that I thought I needed to work on and did just that. When I felt I had made good headway on that one thing, I would go back to the list and pick another thing I needed to do. I gave myself permission to take the time I needed to fix myself. There was no time limit. A few months later I decided to make a new list from the old list. I was quite surprised to find how much work I had actually accomplished. I reviewed where I was, considered if I needed to continue on things I had started or if I felt comfortable where I had gone with it. Then I made my new list.

Some quirks about me, I have left alone. I think they make me unique and different and those quirks are not harmfull to others. While I believe I have succeeded at becoming a person I am proud of and who is not angry at life anymore, I'm always tweeking my list and rededicating myself to those changes I've made and looking forward to the next change that I'll work on.

I guess what I'm trying to say in my long winded way is that if the quirks about you bother you, then maybe it's time to evaluate them and consider what you can do to change them. If you are comfortable with the quirks and they are not hurting others, then you can leave them be if that's what you want. It's all just a personal voyage and you are the captain!