this topic could be placed in other forums but feel this one is the best match. i had many self-sabotaging behaviors for more years than i can count. still do. what has helped me is gaining knowledge about the signs to look for...to be aware of my pitfalls so i can avoid them.
hope this topic may be benficial to others too.
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Self-Sabotage: The Enemy Within
We all get in our own way occasionally and some people do it repeatedly. Self-sabotaging behavior results from the same cause, a misguided attempt to rescue ourselves.
Are you sabotaging yourself? Some people drink, some procrastinate, others are just way too modest. How do you get in your own way?
<H3>1: Dodging Emotions: The Help That Harms</H3>We often get into trouble trying to escape intense negative feelings.
Everyone does it sometimes. Some do it regularly—shoot themselves in the foot or put obstacles in their own chosen path. Behavior is self-sabotaging when in attempting to solve or cope with a problem, it instigates new problems, interferes with long-term goals, and unsettles relationships...
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http://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201109/self-sabotage-the-enemy-within
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.
The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand
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