my husband used to do that. play in the wee hours. i guess you can get addicted to them. i used to try and play with him that way we get some us time. i think you really need to sit down with him and really look over your relationship. if its what he wants. theres no point in being in it if you dont feel wanted or happy. it takes 2 to tango. i think he has some issues he needs to resolve. there is a saying you dont know what u got until u lose it. if you feel that you are doing everything to salvage and try and make it work than u need to think twice about what you want.

i know a lot of people say counseling helps. it trully does have u tried it?

good luck!