hi nelliecat i dont know if you read a lot of my post but i have an unbelievably hard time using words in T and life.in fact my T has all these roules about me and writing and stuff so i dont resort to using that instead of words because if i write to her i still wont talk at all to her about it.for a while it was a huge problem.i also sit on the floor most sessions these days.i feel a lot safer.for a long time my T wouldnt offer any other alternitive like art or anything she would do a project with me and then not bring it up but would wate untill i would ask or use my words.i wouldn't it sucks because i go without so much because i wont open my mouth and ask at all.i mean not even for the simplest thing.these days i am trying very hard to say hi to her and see ya at the end of session.and sometimes i can even talk some.at times i am completely paralized and she will help me get up and move around by doing other stuff like art exersizing.sometimes it takes a lot of coaching from her but eventually i am able to move and relax.

anyway enough about me.i am telling you this to let you know i truely know how hard it is to use words and that there are other things you can do to help.believe me i know how hard asking T to do this stuff is also.first you have to figure out how to ask.that uses words.i ended up writing her a letter talking about my fears etc..how i get paralized.(Not that she didnt already know this)as horrible as it was with all the roules she has about my letters it did help.she now helps me a lot in other ways other than talking.i think she knows my silence in some ways is a way to controle my inviornment and doesnt really get into that battle with me anymore and has kind of accepted it for what it is .but she does still point out when i am not using words and askes me if this is a choice i want to be making . i say work with your T around this .i think sitting on the floor is great it helps you feel safe i hope.and work from that.if it is hard to ask T for paper maybe create a T bag like i did adding pencils paper stuffy or whatever helps you feel safe.then you dont need to ask.it took me about 3 months to get up the guts to bring my bag in but i did and my T loves it.
feel free to pm me if you want to talk some ok.i really do understand.
sorry such a long post