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I am so sorry that you are going through this. I also have an adult daughter and I have to say that it is the most difficult relationship in my life. I love her just as much as I love her brothers but I think mothers and daughters just clash sometimes. Particularly at this age L
I have to accept that she makes decisions in her life that I do not agree with. But I remember being that age and thinking I had all the answers myself. On the other hand, I do not tolerate her treating me with disrespect. When she lashes out I tell her that I love her, but she cannot speak to me like that. Sometimes it is simply a misunderstanding. I will say one thing and she hears another and it takes that “um, where in the hell did that come from” to straighten it out.
I think your husband’s reaction is quite common. The issue is between you and your daughter so him jumping into the mix would only complicate the matter in my opinion.
I too would recommend sitting down and talking to her. Let her know that you love her, but that love no longer includes allowing her to treat you like dirt.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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