Welcome Fit1 and thank you for your post.

I'm very glad that you don't let the label of the diagnosis define you! My therapist didn't offer me a diagnosis (because of a recent somewhat traumatic misdiagnosis by the therapist I saw prior), but she confirmed it for me when I presented it to her. I'd been doing a lot of reading and thought the diagnosis fit me. She was quick to say to me, "I don't want you to get hung up on the diagnosis, though." and so I haven't. We don't refer to it in my therapy, and I don't label any of my behaviors or issues with the BPD label, because it takes away from the real issue(s) that need to be looked at.

The good news about the diagnosis, for me, is that it explained a lot about my life and it gave me a place to start. "You are here: X". Therapy makes my life so much better!