Last year both my daughter & my DIL started trying for a baby, both were 37 & my DIL already had two girls by a previous marriage, aged 14 & 15. In May this year our DIL told us she was pregnant, whilst we were on holiday, so it was on Skype & my son & her just held up a scan of the baby. We were thrilled to bits, as i thought I was never going to be a Grandma ! She phoned our daughter to tell her thinking she would be happy for them, but she wasn't & my son tried to phone her & she wouldn't answer the phone. We understood that she was v upset because she herself wasn't pregnant, but it has lasted, she said she didn't want us to mention them or the baby & she wouldn't see them. A couple of months ago she phoned my DIL, but she (DIL) was too upset to talk, as she has been since the beginning with the way my daughter has treated them. D then came around here & I suggested that maybe talking to DIL face to face might help, so very bravely she went round there. She tried to hug DIL, but never once apologised to her for treating them so badly, so once again there was no reconciliation.

I get very upset because this should be such a happy time, but all this ill feeling has spoilt it. We could have understood if she had taken a few weeks to get over it, as understandably she wished it was her !

I have looked forward to grandchildren for years & just feel I want this to be back to normal again, I don't know what will happen in the next two weeks when the baby should arrive. But just feel our daughter has ruined it, although I feel very sorry for her & wish she could get pregnant.