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Nov 09, 2011, 02:01 PM
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Member Since: Sep 2011
Location: South Dakota
Posts: 4
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Originally Posted by dirt69juggalo
it honestly feels like nothing will make it better some days but ya I guess we just have to keep working at it
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I feel as someone that does have BPD that it is harder to get over relationships. My boyfriend is breaking up with me. We are currently living together and I am trying to find an apartment or house. I think it is harder for us to get over people because commonly people with BPD love with all of their heart, we love large, it is actually one of the characteristics of BPD. We throw our all into it. If the relationship doesn't work out we tend to blame ourselves because we know that we have BPD so we know that we have a disease and so then we feel it's our fault. We think everything we did step by step, word by word. We never quite know if we are wrong or right cuz we don't know if it's the disease acting up or if we are acting healthily. It's a mess. Mean while our exes are moving on with life. They are getting back out in life. Going shopping, Getting a new hair do, Going to dinner with friends. While we are feeling like crap. Thinking of them. Listening to songs reminding us of them. Kicking ourselves around for doing this or not doing that. Coulda, woulda, shoulda. We need to move on too. Get healthy, find the things that bring us joy. For me that is music. Or a drive around town. Or a sinful dessert with coffee. Stop not treating yourself. Hopefully this is helpful.
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