Maybe I'm just an Old Hippie, but I think this makes you super cool.

Back to Squiggle, I also agree with MCL about putting things into a "container" and taking them out when you are ready to deal with it at the next stage (sorry if I've distorted your message). Squiggle has dealt with them and even if it is all our collective opinions that she needs to do more, that's really hers to decide.

I would also point out, having worked with domestic violence victims for a long time, that a lot of the experience of abuse in this arena is that it is accompanied with a loss of control, or better said, being controlled by the abusive partner. It is very important for the abused to be empowered in her healing, which is super hard when people (out of caring, I know) try to *force* her to heal in a particular way. We need to empower her, not control her.

And, I edit to add this: if anyone posted and told me what I had to discuss in therapy this week, I'd tell you to bite the big one. Seriously. I suspect most people here would say the same. I don't think this thread, or really any other on this forum, is for the purpose of telling other people what they should be dealing with in therapy, unless that advice is actually solicited.

Anne